Premarital therapy for couples who want to deepen their connection, navigate the hard conversations, and build a strong foundation for what comes next.
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VIRTUAL DATING & RELATIONSHIP THERAPY IN SAN FRANCISCO AND CA
Wherever you are, we’ll start there.
Relationship Transition Therapy looks different for everyone. We’ll start where you are and build your therapy plan from there. From dating to breakups and everything in between, what feels most like your situation?
DATING
You're dating but struggling to find someone who is genuinely compatible.
RELATIONSIP UNCERTAINTY
You're in a relationship but questioning whether you should stay or leave.
BREAKUPS
You've had a breakup and are struggling to let go and move forward.
* It’s okay if your situation doesn’t fit neatly into any of these boxes. We’ll determine the right treatment approach together in our first session. You can scroll down to learn more about how I work.
You’re good at life. Why does dating feel so hard?
Dating has a crazy way of making smart, capable people suddenly question their own judgment.
You’re ready for a committed relationship, but dating hasn’t been as straightforward as you expected. You know what you don’t want. You may even have a pretty good idea of what you do want. But getting to a first date feels like a project in itself, let alone figuring out whether there’s potential once you get to know someone.
Because you’re in it, it’s hard to see the bigger picture. Your friends may know you well and have plenty to say, and ChatGPT can give you advice in seconds, but it isn’t nuanced enough to really know you and understand what’s going on.
Therapy is different.
I consider your history, your patterns, and the bigger picture of how you relate to people, so we can get to the core of what’s happening instead of only troubleshooting the latest text message thread.
While attachment patterns can be useful for understanding certain relationship dynamics, not everything that happens in dating can be explained by being “anxious” or “avoidant.” Ugh, I wish it were that easy.
You might be overthinking things because the person you’re dating is giving you mixed signals. Or you’re pulling away because you’re genuinely not that interested. Context matters a ton here.
We’ll look at the 2020s universe of dating: dating apps, changing gender roles, shifting expectations around marriage and partnership, and the ways women’s lives and priorities have changed.
You’re meeting strangers through an app, trying to figure out whether there’s real potential or just good chemistry, deciding how much to invest, and figuring out whether someone is truly interested or simply very good at texting. There’s plenty of advice telling you to “know your worth,” “never settle,” or “just put yourself out there,” but that kind of advice only gets you so far and is annoying to hear.
Whether you’re frustrated by dating apps and situationships, discouraged by relationships that never seem to progress, finding yourself pulling away when things start to get serious, or simply unsure where to begin, dating brings up questions you don’t struggle with in other areas of your life.
X You want to stop
Overthinking every interaction
Pulling away when someone gets close
Dating on autopilot
Ruling people out too quickly
Getting discouraged by dating apps
Feeling like you should know how to date by now
✓ And you want to start
Knowing what you’re really looking for
Getting better at reading compatibility
Feeling more comfortable showing interest
Recognizing your own patterns
Navigating early dating with more confidence
Dating with more curiosity and less pressure
How I can help you…
Ultimately, this work is about becoming more discerning, more confident, and more comfortable being yourself while figuring out who is worth your time and attention.
The more you understand yourself, what you need, and what you’re looking for, the easier it becomes to trust your judgment and make choices with greater agency.
If you’re ready to approach dating with a fresh perspective, I’d love to support you.
📱 Dating apps
Create a profile that feels like you, invest your time intentionally, and learn to spot red flags, inconsistencies, and emotional unavailability sooner.
🌴 Meeting people IRL
If apps aren’t your thing, we’ll get creative about where and how to actually meet people who might be a good fit.
💬 Flirting & showing interest
Get more comfortable flirting, initiating, showing interest, and navigating those awkward early stages without analyzing every move.
❤️ Early dating & compatibility
Figure out what to pay attention to, how much to invest, when to give something more time, and when the answer is simply that the two of you aren’t a great fit.