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VIRTUAL DATING & RELATIONSHIP THERAPY IN SAN FRANCISCO AND CA
Wherever you are, we’ll start there.
Relationship Transition Therapy looks different for everyone. We’ll start where you are and build your therapy plan from there. From dating to breakups and everything in between, what feels most like your situation?
1. DATING
You're dating but struggling to find someone who is genuinely compatible.
2. RELATIONSHIP UNCERTAINTY
You're in a relationship but questioning whether you should stay or leave.
3. BREAKUPS
You've had a breakup and are struggling to let go and move forward.
* It’s okay if your situation doesn’t fit neatly into any of these boxes. We’ll determine the right treatment approach together in our first session. You can scroll down to learn more about how I work.
Dating
Dating is wild. One minute you’re strangers, the next you’re analyzing their punctuation.
Finding a partner has turned into a part-time job with terrible benefits.
You’re navigating apps, mixed signals, inconsistent communication, and people who seem interested one minute and disappear the next. It can make even smart, capable women question their own judgment.
“You have a good idea of what you want. You know what you're no longer willing to put up with. So why does dating still leave you questioning yourself?
“Am I being too picky?”
“Is this my anxious attachment style?”
“Am I overthinking this?”
“Are there any good options left out there?”
So you do what you’ve been taught to do. You work even more on yourself because you assume you must be the problem. Or you start focusing on their potential and taking on the work of helping them get there.
You read the books. Learn about attachment. Examine your childhood. Work on your boundaries. Get better at communicating. Follow dating coaches on Instagram.
And still, you keep ending up in connections that leave you confused, disappointed, or doing far more of the work than the other person.
After 14 years as a relationship therapist, here’s what I know:
not everything is an attachment issue. Not every date that goes nowhere is proof that you’re farther away from finding someone compatible. And not every relationship can be fixed by looking inwards. You’ve done enough of the “work.” Now let’s integrate it.
Somewhere along the way, we’ve become so focused on figuring ourselves out and decoding the other person that we’ve forgotten that dating is relational. It’s what happens between two people.
How do you feel around this person? What happens when you express a need? Do you feel drawn to them, and do you feel desired in return? Is there room for curiosity, honesty, and play? When something feels off, is it an old fear getting activated, or is the relationship actually giving you something to pay attention to?
When you’re in the middle of it, it’s hard to see clearly. You talk to your friends. They love you, they know you, and they have opinions. And now there’s ChatGPT, ready to analyze his text in seconds.
Therapy is different.
I will help you reconnect with yourself outside of thoughts, make sense of what you’re noticing in the moment, and decide what to do with that information, one small step at a time. That’s the difference.
X You want to stop
Overthinking every interaction
Pulling away when someone gets close
Dating on autopilot
Ruling people out too quickly
Getting discouraged by dating apps
Feeling like you should know how to date by now
✓ And you want to start
Knowing what you’re really looking for
Getting better at reading compatibility
Feeling more comfortable showing interest
Recognizing your own patterns
Navigating early dating with more confidence
Dating with more curiosity and less pressure
How I can help you…
Ultimately, this work is about becoming more discerning, more confident, and more comfortable being yourself while figuring out who is worth your time and attention.
The more you understand yourself, what you need, and what you’re looking for, the easier it becomes to trust your judgment and make choices with greater agency.
If you’re ready to approach dating with a fresh perspective, I’d love to support you.
📱 Dating apps
Create a profile that feels like you, invest your time intentionally, and learn to spot red flags, inconsistencies, and emotional unavailability sooner.
🌴 Meeting people IRL
If apps aren’t your thing, we’ll get creative about where and how to actually meet people who might be a good fit.
💬 Flirting & showing interest
Get more comfortable flirting, initiating, showing interest, and navigating those awkward early stages without analyzing every move.
❤️ Early dating & compatibility
Figure out what to pay attention to, how much to invest, when to give something more time, and when the answer is simply that the two of you aren’t a great fit.